MITCHELL L. LUCK, LMBT#18821
I have noticed that most things in life are quite doable,regardless of how big or how small they appear to be. It’s easy to look at other people and immediately let negative thoughts creep into your mind. These thoughts and feelings tend to arrest our development and have a tendency to keep us from being happy with ourselves. I know firsthand that following your own interests can create insecurities because of the judgement that others may place on you. It’s important, men and women to step out with confidence and pursue your hobbies and passions to the fullest. I now have this ability,to confidently take this approach in my life. Now, I must begin by saying that it took time and lots of “meetings with myself “ to develop this outlook.
The important part that is often forgotten is the ability to be completely comfortable with who you are. Understanding that the more you get used to doing your own thing, the easier it will become. Your confidence will grow to levels you never thought possible,because you are tapping into a place in your mind and in your heart that’s pure and true to who you really are. If you practice this everyday, you will step out of your front door with a new found ability to not only lead yourself, but also lead others.
Keep in mind it’s a daily routine that keeps you balanced,this will validate all of your securities in yourself and your activities,you will begin to soar as others will look at you for inspiration. So take that chance and go all out,someone out there is looking for a leader, it just might be you. The idea of taking chances and taking the road less travelled can possibly be the road for you. Make no mistake about it, I understand the need to work and make money, but there is no need to let a day go by without doing something that makes you feel alive!! You owe it to yourself to make that time.
I'm asking you and urging you to regain that confidence and balance by stressing less and start enjoying your life more. Make time for you……….everyday.
The process of making changes in yourself is a formula that you create one step at a time. This requires you to make a decision. The decision to make mental changes and the decision to make physical changes.The really awesome part about this is that this is one of many ongoing opportunities to recreate yourself. The first step is always the biggest one,the concept of changing your mind.
There are many challenges associated with making this change. I will tell you an approach that i find to be the most effective. This method can be changed a little or a lot,but the baseline will give you the best opportunity for success.
The first thing I would suggest doing is changing the way you see other people. You have to take a few moments everyday and just watch people,look at all races, men, women, shapes and sizes. This is very important because what you’re trying to do is level the playing field, you’re making yourself like everyone else. You can’t make any progress if you think you’re better than anyone else,you just can’t! I’m not saying don’t be confident, I'm just saying that now everyone is the same. The busy business owner is the same as the busy single mom or dad. The struggling family is the same as the wealthy household. If you adopt this way of thinking, you will start to feel more peaceful in your place,you're no better than anyone else,just be the best version of yourself. This is the first step,now you are on your way to changing your mind.
Now that you have taken this step,it’s now time to start changing your ways. What i mean is that change how you talk to other people,change how you eat,change the tone of how you speak,start to make all of these things in a positive light. You have to start relaxing a bit more and making the attempt to stress less. The steps are small ones,you don’t have to take on all of these at once. The few ways that I mentioned are only the ones that jump out at me first, your changes can be your own, don’t feel the need to follow my direct suggestions,but commit to doing something different,that’s the key to all of it, make changes!
And make the changes positive.
We all can improve in some area,and we must all admit that. I ask you to make that huge effort to work on these changes each and everyday. The way to this clarity is to slowly work on your list of changes daily! We are all people trying to live peacefully. t is extremely important to move forward,set your course and challenge yourself to change your mind and change your ways.
In this day and time everybody is on the chase to trend and be something for the sake of popularity. Being yourself is a difficult thing to do and we all at some point have been worthy of academy award performances when it comes to being something or someone we are not. What i'm getting at here is maintaining your integrity and loving yourself. Regardless of social status,money or resources. It's ok to not have everything,its ok to to chose to work as much or as little as you like. Love yourself in a way that makes you feel good. Stay focused!
And by all means remain positive, you will find yourself surrounded by like minded people who love and respect you for who your are and and they won't challenge you to change those things that naturally make you ….you.
This self love can be seen, it can be felt. It’s what makes you attractive to people even though you may not hear it everyday. I find that people respect my pure honesty whether it makes a situation momentarily uncomfortable. I often hear “ I can't say that “ or “I wish i could ask her or him out”. My suggestion is to put all the bullshit aside and love yourself enough to know that yes, I can make improvements, and yes I won't be rude when I speak, but that love for who you are will spread and the right people and situations will be put right in front of you. Stop being afraid and love yourself,look in the mirror everyday and do what I call a “by myself meeting.” Say great things about who you are and never ever feel like you have to be someone else to gain the acceptance of others. Trust me on this one ….let the artist come out, let the athlete come out, let it all out with lots of love…...and the love WILL come back.
My current and ongoing philosophy seems to center around knowing and placing value on him or herself as individuals. Each one of us has social value to the community and to each other. This value isn’t necessarily measured in an amount of money that you may have. The kind of value that I'm talking about is the value that exists in you,your time and your contribution to the life cycle.
Now i'm talking to everyone here because until people wake up and realize their worth, they will not reach or even begin their march towards their full potential. The mindset of trying to figure out what your worth is has nothing to do with money. Your time is worth a lot to you,don't let people waste your time.
I remember a time not long after a situation in my life that i wasn't sure what to do in terms of money or social contribution. I found myself with lots of time…...free time. I was thinking of hundreds of things that I could be doing,buying things i don't need,trying to get more ”stuff” but instead I decided that any free time that I had i would do something that improved me as a person mentally and physically. I was saying to myself that i would never waste an opportunity to work on myself. I studied peaceful philosophies, took up photography, started watching bands and listening to new music. I threw myself into my hobbies and things that I was passionate about. I got lots of joy speeding on a motorcycle as much as a slow easy paddle on the lake. I would breathe in the positivity that i was creating, it was mine and i was doing it for me. I began to focus more, I chased the phone less and less. I created zones where it's me time and no is an answer that you might get from me during this time. I became a more focused person with more purpose to my life.
We spend too much time in my opinion making sure the ones around us are happy or ok. Now i'm not saying not to care for your family or negate your children or responsibilities, but make time to care for you. I ask you today and if you ever meet me and talk to me, I will urge you to by all means work on yourself everyday…..there is time.